Discussing sex toys with your partner
Posted on December 04 2022
Incorporating sex toys with your partner can be a great way to explore new aspects of your sexuality and add some excitement to your sex life. But for many people, the thought of bringing up the topic of sex toys with their partner can be intimidating. If you're not sure how to approach the subject, here are some tips to help you have a productive and positive conversation.
First, it's important to choose the right time and place to have the conversation. Avoid bringing up the topic of sex toys in the heat of the moment, as this can put pressure on your partner to make a decision on the spot. Instead, choose a time when you're both relaxed and comfortable, such as in the evening after dinner or on the weekend when you have more time to talk. When you are on a date can be a great time to broach the subject, as (hopefully!) you will both be in a place to focus on the conversation without distractions, and even talking about your ideas for sex can add some spice to the end of the date!
Once you've chosen a good time to talk, start the conversation by expressing your interest in trying new things in the bedroom. Let your partner know that you're open to exploring new aspects of your sexuality and that you're curious about sex toys. Ask your partner if they have any thoughts or concerns about using sex toys, and listen carefully to what they have to say.
If your partner is hesitant or unsure about using sex toys, try to address their concerns. For example, if they're worried about the 'stigma' of using a sex toy, you can reassure them that sex toys are a normal and common part of many people's sex lives. (Research shows about 80% of adults own a sex toy.) You can also remind them that sex toys can be a great way to enhance pleasure and intimacy between partners.
If they are open to sex toys, you may want to discuss how you would like to incorporate them - do you want to use them on your partner? You partner to use them on you? What kind of toys?
There are all kinds of sex toys, just as there are all kinds of sexual behavior, and we support all of them. But if your partner is new to sex toys, we'd suggest starting with some of our recommended first sex toys, rather than going straight to an impaling cock ring.
It's important to respect your partner's boundaries. If they're not interested in using sex toys, don't push the issue. Instead, focus on finding other ways to enhance your sex life and explore your sexuality together.
In conclusion, discussing sex toys with your partner can be a great way to open up new avenues of exploration and intimacy. Just remember to choose the right time and place to talk, listen to your partner's concerns, and respect their boundaries. With these tips in mind, you can have a productive and positive conversation about sex toys with your partner.