How to choose your first sex toy

We get it. It can be intimidating to purchase your first sex toy. So first, we'd like to say "We're proud of you!" for exploring the purchase. With the skewed messages around sex most of us grew up with, it's easy to lose sight of the fact that a vibrant, healthy erotic and sex life is something to be celebrated!

If you're thinking about buying your first sex toy, you're not alone. Research shows that about 80% of adults own a sex toy, so you'll be in good company! Sex toys can be a great way to add some excitement to your sex life and explore your own sexuality. But with so many options out there, it can be overwhelming to know where to start. In this article, we'll give you some tips on how to choose the right sex toy for you and make your first purchase a success.

It's important to think about what you're looking for in a sex toy. Do you want something small and discreet, or are you looking for something more elaborate? Do you want a toy that you can use on your own, or one that you can use with a partner? (Of course, there's nothing stopping you from wanting both!)

Another important thing to consider is the material of the sex toy. Sex toys are made from a wide range of materials, including silicone, plastic, glass, and metal. Each material has its own unique properties, so it's important to choose one that is safe, non-toxic, and comfortable for you to use. Your sex toys are going to be used intimately on and in your body - this is why OurLavender does not carry any sex toys that need a proposition 65 warning (meaning they may expose you to cancer causing chemicals - shockingly, many sex toys fall into this category!)

With that in mind, we'd like to offer some suggestions from the team at Our Lavender. These products have all satisfied our testers, and are a great set of ideas for your first sex toys.

They are all elegant, simple, and are easy to use. 

Remember, the most important thing in any sex toy is how YOU feel about it. You have to be comfortable using it - with yourself or with a partner.

For Vagina Owners

If you are, or are in relationship with, a person with a vagina, a vibrator is a great place to start your exploration of sex toys.

The classic rabbit vibrator is a classic for a reason. It can be used internally, externally, with a partner, solo - and the rabbit allows for pleasuring the clitorus and G spot at the same time. They come in a variety of sizes, colors and features. 

We personally love this classy Fifty Shades G Spot Rabbit Vibrator - and we think you will too!

For Penis Owners

If you are looking for one sex toy to start with for a penis owner - get a cock ring.

It will help you stay harder, longer. If it's your first foray into cock rings, we love this simple cock ring set - it has different sizes, is very stretchy, but no frills.

For the upgrade - you and your partner both will love a vibrating cock ring. They are pricier - but worth it!

For Everyone

OK, anal play is not for everyone, but everyone has an anus, and can - if you are interested - explore the fun world of anal play as a way to spice up your sex life.

We recommend starting with a simple butt plug, and from there - well, there is a whole world of prostate toys, anal dildos and vibrators, and more, awaiting you!

Once you have a sense of what you're looking for, it's time to start shopping. You can find sex toys at many different types of stores, including adult stores, specialty shops, and even some mainstream retailers. You can also shop online, which can be a convenient and discreet option. Sites like OurLavender allow you to browse a wide variety of toys, and read and compare the descriptions. If you're shopping in a store, don't be afraid to ask the staff for help. They can provide you with valuable information and advice on the different products available.

Buying your first sex toy can be a fun and exciting experience. Just remember to do your research, choose a reputable seller, and pick a toy that is safe, non-toxic, and comfortable for you to use. With these tips in mind, you can find the perfect sex toy for you and start exploring your own sexuality in a new and exciting way.